It's been a month since I last posted. I suppose I'm not the best blogger in the world. Actually, I'm quite certain this is the case. My other blog hasn't been updated since the beginning of baseball season last year with my picks for the season. For the record, I got 2 out of 8 teams correct for the Playoffs. At least I'm not only terribly in blogging, I'm also terrible at picking teams in the MLB Playoffs before the season starts.
I can live with those failures.
A lot has happened in the last month, though. I got to feel Xavier move! That was certainly an exciting moment for me. Holly had been able to feel him all the time, and I'd sit down to try and get discouraged. Now, all things considered, I'm still not positive it was him moving or her stomach just gurgling at me, but I'll take it either way, I guess. Heh.
The freshest memory and bloggable experience for me happened yesterday. Holly and I were in Columbus for my grandmother's 80th birthday celebration and we decided to detour over to Babies R Us to register for the upcoming Baby Showers. We had registered for our wedding about 18 months before and that was a piece of cake. I mean, seriously, it really can't be any easier to register for your wedding because it's all stuff you understand completely. "We will need sheets for our bed."
I thought registering for the baby was similar.
I was completely wrong.
I thought a stroller was a stroller. Wrong.
I thought a car seat was a car seat. Wrong.
I thought a bottle was a bottle. Wrong.
We were going through the store, scanning items to put on our registry and I was just completely overwhelmed.
I'm convinced that I have no idea what I'm getting into. I mean, I literally have no idea what it takes to be the father of an infant. I shared these thoughts with our Sunday School class this morning and the other dads just laughed at me. I said I was looking for some support. They reminded me that they laugh because they understand exactly where I am right now.
As we were finishing up at the store, one word kept coming to mind. Overwhelmed. We were both completely overwhelmed with everything.
I don't mean for this blog to be completely negative, I really don't. In fact so far this experience has been quite positive. I am enjoying this time of preparation, this time of anxious expectation. It's all really fun for me and it's becoming more and more real every day. He's going to be here so soon, and I absolutely cannot wait to hold my son in my arms.
If you don't mind me adding something to the end of this post, I'd really appreciate some comments/feedback on here. I'm not writing this post to win any medals or trophies, and I don't imagine that there will come a day when someone asks me to compress my thoughts on fatherhood into a book. The reason I write is to unwind and think about things in a different format, but it sure is easier to write when I know people are reading.
Thanks for reading. =)
Don't ever be afraid or to proud to ask questions! I know you have a lot of friends and family who would be glad to answer them. After 3 kids, it is still overwhelming. Just when you think you have it figured out....a new twist! Every child is different and you have to figure out what works for you guys and him! As a friend, a mom and a nurse, my door is always open! Love you both...well, all three of you!
ReplyDeleteCongrats! I didn't know.geographically challenged I guess! I know nothing about babies, but Ken is the master. He even became a midwife and welcomed his kids into the world! Plus he raised them all on his own! Me the kids were teens when I meet them. So if you need the male view point here...talk to Ken.
ReplyDeleteYou are going to do great!
ReplyDeleteThe first couple weeks canget a little crazy...who am I kidding..the first couple years are crazy!;) But he will have a mama and a daddy who love Jesus, and that is most important in my book.Different things work for different families, and you will find that people have pretty strong opinions regarding "Bringing Up Baby".Including ME! ha! :)
DO your research , listen to people you trust, Do what works for you!!
Cant wait to see pics of your new bundle of joy!